It's a strange thing to feel life change like a storm blowing in. There is a certain grimness as you attempt to brace for it, but what you need to do exactly is uncertain. The period of time from May 2010 to May 2010 will bring more change to my life than I would have thought possible in January, but I can feel the effects now and see more coming. For a little explanation:
May 2010
I graduated from nursing school unsure where I would be working. I had a job offer close to home and an interview out west that was everything I thought I wanted. I went, interviewed, and never expected to be unsure if it was really what I wanted after all. There were complications I hadn't anticipated. The position wasn't what I had been led to believe it was, the city wasn't what I had pictured, and there were people, rather one person, I couldn't bear to think about leaving behind.
Summer
A month of limbo waiting and praying about where July should take me. I finally decided to take the job at home, and set about finding a place to live and a roommate. I found the perfect girl to live with, and then we found a darling little condo close to work. I had a job, a roommate, a place to live, and things seemed to be falling into place. I planned to live in the cute little condo for a few years while I learned all the things college didn't teach me.
My world was splitting in half. My one best friend moved to Kansas to follow her dreams of higher education, at which she will be brilliant. My other best friend was giddy with excitement about getting married the first week of August, then moving to Atlanta where her soon to be hubby attends seminary. I couldn't be happier for them, but at the same time I knew I was going to miss their frequent presence in my life terribly. I have found it is a rare, beautiful thing to find people who can really see the pretty and ugly parts of you at the same time, and see your heart, and love you for what they see. While trying not to be a moping, self pitying mess about my friends moving on to their futures while I felt left behind in the city where we met, I started my new job as a critical care nurse. It was a dream finally realized, and at the same time i couldn't believe all the responsibility I was entrusted with. There is a chasm from student nurse to RN, and I was just hoping to somehow fly across it. I planned for "grown up life"- I made a budget, set up a savings account, selected my health insurance plan, and took over my car insurance. My dad said he felt like he got a raise. Then, while trying not to drown at work or become a friendless hermit, something completely unexpected happened. Well, not completely, but much sooner than expected. The only boy who's ever known my heart down on one knee at a park we go to all the time. and i answered his question with "are you serious?!" then "yes!" and a giggle that couldn't be stopped.
I had the honor of being in the wedding, and as I watched all of the love in that place I couldn't wait to get married. Only 10 months to go. It didn't take long for me to become frustrated with wedding planning and details. I felt isolated,and instead of feeling joyful i began to feel resentful of all the time I was spending wedding planning. I felt that instead, i needed to be making friends and meeting people to try to fill the massive hole in my heart.
Fall
Not one to keep my thoughts to myself, Fiance and I discussed how alone and isolated i was feeling. All this time i had been rotating through seven critical care units, trying to decide where I wanted to work. As i cared for people hanging on to life with both hands, it seemed so ridiculous to spend so much energy upset about planning a wedding. Fiance gave me a hug, apologized, and said he would step up. Suddenly, it was like a burden was lifted and our relationship was right, and balanced again. I got truly excited about being engaged. School started back, and there was a pull in me that wanted to go back more than anything. To go and walk the familiar halls and see familiar faces. To read and learn and study and lose track of time at the library. I loved college, and knew that it was a precious gift of time to be and learn and grow, and that after it was over those opportunities would be harder to come by. I love to learn, and i love being in a classroom, but i was terrified of putting that into practice when people's lives were impacted by my decisions. So i went back when my friend in Kansas came to visit, but as we walked we couldn't help but notice all of the things that were different, and all of the people we didn't recognise. It made me so sad, but i realized that even if i hadn't left things would still be different. Maybe not much different, but just enough to matter. I think i left at the right time, when i wasn't ready to leave but the place still holds fond memories. Now, when i drive past the students walking to class on my way to work i can drive past and know that there is nothing there for me anymore, that I belong somewhere else. at least most days.
Now it's getting colder, and I'm looking forward to thanksgiving. And instead of talking about tests before and after break I am trying to make my work schedule as conducive to family time as I can. Then today i sat on the floor for three hours going through the 234 pictures i had printed of the last four years of my life. I laughed to myself at some, cried about others. I thought of the people in those photos and where they are now. Some of them i have no idea. Some people i left out on purpose, hoping that as i look back on this album i wont remember them, others are on every page in hopes i never forget. And it's a reminder that time just passes. And i don't need to think about counting the days till anything, but take today for what it is. I think Jesus knew I would need this reminder, so he said not to worry about tomorrow because tomorrow can worry about itself. there is more than enough life in today. But that doesn't mean I am not excited to see what tomorrow has.